Dear Graham Norton: 'I don’t know how to come to terms with my cheating ex’s years of secret cross-dressing'

Dear Graham

Last year, my husband of 24 years announced that not only was he having an affair behind my back, but that he had hidden his cross-dressing from me for our entire married life.

With our divorce almost final, I have accepted that this other woman is now in his life permanently (she “accidentally” got pregnant). However, I cannot get over the fact that he wore my clothes and shoes throughout our marriage.

I have seen four therapists, all of whom have sucked in their breath, turned a deep shade of fuchsia and told me in no uncertain terms that they were not qualified to answer my questions.

I absolutely accept that in this day and age we are meant to be accepting of other people’s sexual idiosyncrasies; I also think it’s possible that had I been told about his fetish in the early stages of our marriage, I might have been able to work around it.

As it stands, though, I feel duped,...